BDSM Humiliation: Mistress Queen's Advice

The game of humiliation, like all BDSM acts, must be performed cleanly. Submissive men are easy to manipulate and humiliate. Their needs must be understood. Humiliation , and chastity in particular, is a popular fantasy. Men enjoy being dominated and controlled far more than one might think.

However, you can't just cage their little bird and insult them. That's not how BDSM works. Here's some solid advice from a professional mistress to make your submissive obey your every whim.

A reversed domination

Humiliation leads to sexual pleasure and the satisfaction of the dominant woman. The man, for his part, takes pleasure in submitting, in being vulnerable, exposed, and at the mercy of his superior Mistress.

His sole aim is to please her. The fact that the submissive is aroused and deprived of a sexual outlet only increases the satisfaction of both parties: the woman's because she feels powerful, and the submissive's because he finally feels useful for something.

Consent: a key point in BDSM

You will experience sexual ecstasy when your slave watches you climax intensely during penetration with another man or a dildo. Each orgasm will drive him a little wilder.

To make this scenario a reality, your partner must consent to the idea of ​​having a third person in the room and being placed in a chastity cage . Therefore, each scene must be negotiated in advance. A submission contract can be drawn up by both parties if necessary.

Security and tracking

BDSM remains a hobby; you must not emotionally (or physically) mark your submissive. Therefore, you must establish a " safe world " with your partner. This word should only be used by the submissive if they feel threatened or if they categorically refuse a punishment or a specific position.

Now that we know the basics, let's get down to business and what you came to see: my pro tips, tricks and punishments!

Verbal humiliation

Use degrading language

When it comes to humiliation , verbal abuse is the most effective method. It's a common phenomenon in the life of a slave, as it goes hand in hand with submission. The goal is to make the male slave feel vulnerable, inadequate, put in his place, and ultimately, utterly degraded.

Humiliation is subjective

Each of you should brainstorm together what actions you would and wouldn't like to do, then act accordingly. This is the only way to know what is truly humiliating for your slave. There's no satisfaction in making him wear sexy lingerie all the time if he loves cross-dressing . You need to make him do something that shames him, but that inwardly excites him immensely. Fortunately, the male ego is so fragile and delicate that it will take almost no effort to break and subdue it. But that doesn't mean it won't be pleasurable.

To humiliate him subtly

If you send text messages, emails, or communicate in writing in general, address your slave by writing their name in lowercase. This is a subtle humiliation that lets them know they are not worthy of a name properly written in capital letters.

Give her a female nickname

This act of feminization will serve to remind him of his inadequacy. If "slut" is too commonplace for you and you want to insult his virility, opt for "Wimp," "MiniDick," "Micropenis," "Faggot," "Shit," "Sissy," "Woman-Dick"... and any other nickname that might humiliate him .

You can also fall back on time-honored nicknames that men have used to address women for decades, even centuries: "sweetie," "darling," "cutie," and other similar terms generally associated with women. Just be sure to pronounce them in the most condescending way possible.

Exploiting all of its flaws

But why stop there? If your slave has appearance issues, humiliate him by pointing out every single one of his flaws. Too fat to see his dick, too thin to fuck me properly, etc. Use every flaw he has (or thinks he has) against him. If he has homosexual tendencies, use them! Call him a slut, a dick-sucker, or an asshole and prove he's one.

Giving a nickname to his tiny penis

Don't forget the best part of verbal humiliation : dick nicknames. Personally, I consider "dick" a powerful word. It evokes specific emotions (just like the word "pussy"). That's why I never use it when talking about my slave's penis . Instead, I use cute nicknames when referring to that sad, limp piece of meat. I suggest you do the same.

"Little thing," "tiny thing," and other variations that draw attention to the actual size of his penis. Furthermore, feminization also plays a significant role here, at least for me, and I like to nickname the slave's penis with words usually reserved for female genitalia . Oh, there's nothing better than calling his penis a "pathetic clitoris" or a "boy's pussy"!

Humiliation through BDSM punishments

Verbal humiliation works quite well on its own. However, why not opt ​​for double humiliation and combine it with punishment?

For example, you can put your submissive in a cage and make him stand perfectly still like a piece of furniture. He can do the chair pose against a wall or get on all fours to make a coffee table. He's not manly enough to fuck you properly anyway, so why not make him act like the bimbo he is, right? It's an incredibly entertaining and effective punishment ! You can also release him from his cage and make him use his penis as a towel rack. He has to maintain his erection, or he'll be severely punished!

Chastity: a permanent punishment

Chastity is about teasing, orgasm denial , pleasure, and humiliation. As the keyholder, you have all the power. You decide when your slave will be freed (or not).

The chastity cage pushes the slave even further into submission and underlines the humiliating fact that he cannot penetrate or use his genitals as he is supposed to.

I like it when my slaves wear their cages for long periods, especially when we're not together. They can't have orgasms in secret without my permission. Their periods of abstinence average two weeks, sometimes one when I want to play with them. This keeps them exactly where I want them: on the edge.

Then, when we meet, I masturbate them very slowly, all evening before granting them a ruined orgasm .

Disguise him

After wearing his chastity cage for a few weeks, my slave can come see me. Before reaching the bedroom, he must endure several rounds of verbal and physical humiliation. For example, he has to wear sexy BDSM accessories , paint his nails, and apply makeup. I enjoy complimenting him on his excellent makeup skills.

Strip him bare

If your slave doesn't like to cross-dress, make him walk around naked on all fours. You can invite a third person to have sex with you while he watches. He will watch you climax with an intense feeling of disappointment and excitement .

Playing with his sperm

Make him ejaculate on your shoes, then make him lick it up. You can also have him lie on his back with his legs raised as close to his shoulders as possible. His penis will be near his face, and he'll cover it. Don't let him clean himself up until the end of the day.

You can also have him kneel on rice or corn while he masturbates. He can also masturbate with boots, furniture, or the floor; he must never touch his genitals with his hands.

Let him taste his semen

Make the slave eat his semen by giving it to him, or make him lick the floor, windows, bathroom tiles, toilet bowl, etc. Alternatively, you can save the semen for future use. Freeze it in an ice cube tray, and you'll have a sweet, humiliating treat for your slave for the next session.

Leave him the dirty work

When it comes to humiliating punishments outside the bedroom, I like to start with simple, degrading, and dirty household chores: washing dishes, vacuuming, mopping, cleaning windows, gardening… When you are a dominant woman, you never really have to worry about the cleanliness of your house!

Treat him like a baby

Make your slave wear a diaper over his chastity device and put a pacifier in his mouth. He should crawl like a baby while cleaning the house. You can even change his outfit: lingerie, a French maid's costume, nothing but high heels, etc.

Be petty and uncompromising

While your slave is cooking and cleaning, you should relax and criticize their poor work. Insult their accomplishments, their execution of tasks, their intelligence, and their appearance. Furthermore, you can escalate the situation by assigning them a task you know they cannot complete (set an impossible deadline or simply propose a difficult task), then ridicule them for failing to do it.

Sleep and eat

Make your slave sleep on the floor, in the bathroom, or in the doghouse. Furthermore, make him address you in the third person using your favorite nicknames. He's not worthy of first-person pronouns, after all.

At mealtimes, be sure to give your slave only leftovers. He can eat them on the floor without using his hands, like the animal he is. If you eat at a restaurant, make sure to order for him and choose an unsatisfying and humiliating meal (children's menu).

Begging is essential

Whenever the slave wants something, he must beg. His sole purpose is to serve and please you. Therefore, give him creative tasks that might allow him to unlock his chastity cage . Of course, always prolong this moment as much as possible.

Have the slave shave his legs and pubic area . Then, he must apply feminine lotion and return to his chores. Washing your delicates or polishing your boots are always good little tasks. You can also have him carry you, or ride him like a pony. He can serve as a piece of furniture or perform non- sexual services for you, such as painting your toenails or massaging your sore muscles.

Public humiliation

Public humiliation is an area where a bit of ingenuity is required. You can't exactly humiliate your slave in public the way you would in a private setting. If there are people around, always remember that, unlike you and your slave, they didn't sign up to participate in your scene. Therefore, they haven't given their consent.

Try to limit your public humiliation to semi-public or private places that only appear to be public. Don't expose unsuspecting and uninformed passersby to your perverse world.

Humiliation on the go

Have your slave wear lingerie over his chastity cage , then dress him in regular clothes and send him to the store. Write him a list of humiliating items. Make him buy tampons, extra-small condoms, cucumbers and eggplants with lubricant , and more.

You can also tell him to buy remote electrostimulation accessories . Make him wear the electrodes and his chastity cage at work or in public, and turn him on without warning. Torture him as much as you can. However, be careful not to interfere with his private or professional life and always make sure you get his prior consent for these actions.

Keep your slave on constant alert. Have him take a picture of his caged penis and make it his phone wallpaper. He'll need to maintain constant vigilance if he doesn't want vanilla people to discover his predicament.

She's the Cinderella of the house.

If you have friends who are as perverse as you (and therefore willing), invite them over for dinner. Ask your slave to serve them naked or in an outfit of your choosing. He can do it on all fours with nothing but his cage. You can also leave him in the room, gagged and exposed, while you chat with your friends.